MGTOW – Sleep Interrogation and Deprivation

When you start dating you begin to drop the need for other things such as food and sleep. I’m going to focus today on losing sleep, although food does play a role because it’s another energy source that gets supplanted by the excitement  I found that in my first relationship I was head over heels for this girl. I wouldn’t go to sleep without texting her and everything I did during that day was centered around my enjoyment from her and in keeping her.

I remember being about 170 pounds when I started dating her and in good cardiovascular shape but I had pretty poor body definition, nothing to attract a girl. When I started courting her all of that changed, my diet changed and my workout purpose changed. I wanted to workout for aesthetics, not for mental and physical health per say. I also dropped all sugar and simple carbs and went to a high protein, low calorie diet. I wasn’t hungry and I didn’t need to sleep. I fed off of her energy night and day. I woke up energized, I woke up not wanting that immediate breakfast only after about 5-6 hours of sleep.

I get why this is happening. Acquiring this mate becomes so biologically important. It has to do with survival and passing on your genes, so you brain goes in overdrive to accomplish this. Everything else gets pushed to the wayside because it’s not as high on the priority list. You can go without as much food, you can drop the sleep but you know if you lose the girl then you lose a chance to spread your seed and in a way survive for another generation through as many offspring as you have with that mate. This was my response to my girlfriend, and I will definitely make a video detailing my first dating experience, from beginning to end – it’s quick shocking and a big source of shame for me.

As far as how this relates to what I’m talking about today, is that you begin to ditch practices and habits that are necessary for your health and well being. Regardless of how great a relationship is for you, if you lose your own health, you lose everything and thus it should be the number one priority. One of the things that you can lose and sometimes the women will take from you, is sleep. It’s a way that you can become an impulsive, anxious and overall unhealthy person and also a person controlled by her, and that’s what I want to address today.

I want to look at the three different dangers that can result of women that deprive you of sleep and what can happen if you find yourself in a relationship where sleep does not persist as a priority. I know this is not a mainstream MGTOW topic idea although it’s something where I failed in both of my relationships and it’s something that can be applied to everyone’s life, whether or not you’re MGTOW, whether or not you’re currently dating or whether or not you want to date in the future.

Number 1: Increased Aggression

There is a study that I found on the Internet in the Journal of Aggression, Maltreatment and Trauma which looks specifically at “Sleep Deprivation and Dating Aggression Perpetration in Female College Students: The Moderating Roles of Trait Aggression, Victimization by Partner and Alcohol Use”. The study took note of 108 different women and their sleep quality was measured subjectively and objectively – self reports of dating and trait aggression were also made as well. The study found that indicators of sleep deprivation were associated with greater frequency of dating aggression perpetration.

Long story short, if you’re in a dating relationship in which you’re not getting enough sleep, she is not letting you get sleep, it’s long distance and you’re falling asleep on the phone each night or she has an expectation that you stay up with her if she has to pull an all-nighter during college for whatever reason…that is not a good thing. Lack of sleep is known to cause a brain chemical collapse, leading to aggression for one thing and behavior that does not reflect your normal self.

This puts you at risk of lashing out aggressively. It also puts her in a situation where she is more prone to behave as such. These are both bad things, as aggressive behavior is a one-way ticket to getting an abuse charge made against you. You don’t even need to be the aggressor in a situation in which your partner or the neighbors call the cops on you for loud noises and yelling just an apartment or home away. Cops are obligated to arrest someone if they’re called to the scene, and in a video that I watched today by Mkrafts, who I referenced in a recent video, the cops will have to arrest the person that is capable of doing the most damage. In all cases, unless there are two women present, that is going to be the man. Very rarely is it going to be the woman, unless she is built like Serena Williams and you’re built like a horse race jockey.

Number 2: They will deprive you of sleep to gain control and learn information

I’ve been deprived of sleep in both of my dating relationships, and especially in the first relationship that I had. I remember one night in particular her waking me up late at night to ask me a question, which was often something that she did. I’m not a responsive person when woken up. I’m very groggy and my one-track mindedness of sleeping is overwhelming. She asked me if I talked to any girls at this party that we were at. Mind you this is around a month into our relationship. Looking back I could see this as a ploy to some how leverage a breakup between us two. I’m assuming she probably saw me as too clingy at the time and was beginning to get bored of me after we had started spending our days together after being separated during summer break between my sophomore and junior year of college. Apparently she had been watching me throughout the night at the party and I hugged one of her teammates on the school swimming team as a form of introduction to seeing each other that night, completely normal and casual. That clearly counted as talking to a chick in her mind, unfaithfully. Mind you I’m barely conscious after having been sleeping, and she is storming around the house talking about how I’m going to have to make this up to her and how she is not going to be able to trust me.

Whether conscious or subconscious of her, she knew she could take advantage of my impaired mental faculties at this time of night. I was not sharp and for whatever reason, she was very sharp and attune to what I was saying to her. This is when women will try to take advantage of men, especially after they’ve been at work all day, are tired, their will power reserves are weaker and more often times is the case for the woman than the man – they have more energy. Maybe they haven’t been working or they’ve been in a low stress environment more hours of the day, thus their energy is slightly higher and the mental processing power is greater at the moment.

Sleep deprivation is a major concern in relationships and it’s yet another stand alone reason to go MGTOW in the first place. You don’t have to worry about what time you go to bed. You can simply go to bed when you want, whether this is immediately after work or right when you get back to your hotel after a long day at work.

Often times you will receive criticism for being tired, for not engaging with her during your fatigue and for choosing sleep over her – all of which are interpreted as a lack of appreciation for her and an overall lack of interest. If any of these things are the case, you need to ditch that chick because she is so far gone in insecurity that it is irreparable and not worth your time.

Number 3: Don’t Talk About Anything Important After 11 p.m.

Funny enough, my mom is a marital counselor and she always talked about the rule that you should never talk about anything important or significant after 11 p.m. or whatever your bedtime is that you have established for yourself based on your genetic circadian rhythms – which is what you should be basing your sleeping patterns off of, not the sleeping patterns that are outlined by the world around you. Those won’t lead to anything other than fatigue and suboptimal performance.

Anyway, I’ve failed that rule. I used to spend each night during the courting phase of my two dating relationships with 2-3 hour conversations that would end around 2 a.m. If I wasn’t doing that I was falling asleep with her at her house and then driving back to my dorm or apartment three times a week at 3 or 4 a.m. An absolutely terrible practice that screwed up my brain patterns, and I think I am still recovering from this.

But the reason beyond personal health for me saying this is that it protects you from saying harmful or damaging information. You could look at this from the standpoint that if you say it is likely honest and could lead to an early breakup. From a MGTOW’s perspective, that’s actually a good thing. Sometimes these things aren’t true but a combination of a dream state or a weakened mind and it could even lead to charges of emotional abuse or verbal abuse with the gynocentric judicial system that we now have in place.

Regardless, talking to someone like this – other than close friend or blood relative that needs your support at this time of night, is really dangerous and I’d stray away from it.

Ultimately, this message should just be another reason why going MGTOW is a healthier way of life. How many married men do you see get burned out and subsequently create the “dad bod” look? It’s because they are too tired from the stressors of work, family and marriage that they don’t have the testosterone and will power to stay in good physical condition. The same goes for sleep. With the vastly larger amount of free time that you have in MGTOW, the more time that you will have to sleep throughout the week and on the weekend. You won’t have to sacrifice your hobbies or personal goals either, which is one of the fears that comes when you talk about upping you sleep numbers.

 

The Freeing Power of MGTOW

MGTOW saves you from buying that car. MGTOW saves you from buying that house. MGTOW saves you from going to those bars, from paying those tips, from buying those girls their drinks. MGTOW saves you from wondering if you’re women is happy. MGTOW saves you from having to stop at the floral shop once a week on your way home from work. MGTOW saves you from having to clean up the kitchen after bombing it with a rib cookout. MGTOW saves you from feeling like you don’t live up to expectations. MGTOW saves you from alimony. MGTOW saves you from child support. MGTOW saves you from the calls from your girl pleading that you come home when you’re grizzying at work, trying to make money, pay those bills and SAVE. MGTOW saves you from having you to tell someone where you are at all times. MGTOW allows you to spend extra time at the gym and to buy that expensive gym club membership instead of clanging the rusty weights at the YMCA or lifting on the Smith Machine at Planet Fitness. MGTOW saves you from worrying about what your car looks like next to the guido as you’re driving down Rodeo or through the Lincoln Tunnel or on South Beach. MGTOW allows you to stay at the cheap, dumpy, raisin bran for breakfast hotel when you’re on a weekend road trip because you want to spend more on the meal at a special restaurant, have an extra day of freedom on the trip or just save your money. MGTOW allows you to fall asleep with the controller or mouse and WASD keys on your fingertips and not hear about the next morning. MGTOW allows you to quit your job that is paying you 100K for 60 hour work weeks, to instead take the job that is paying you 35K, is less stressful and gives you more free time to enrich the other areas of your life. MGTOW allows you to get up early on Saturday to go for a run instead of making sure you stay in bed and watch Netflix all day in order to prove to her that you want to spend time with her. MGTOW allows you to watch the game without feeling guilty. MGTOW allows you to mindlessly scroll through your YouTube Watch Later after a long day of work instead of listening to her diatribe about work or how you need to do this or that. MGTOW allows you to know where your money is going, what it’s being used for and what you’re saving it for. MGTOW gives you more financial peace, freedom and stability. MGTOW allows you to not worry about sneaking to the bathroom at work to make sure you text her back throughout the day. MGTOW saves you anywhere from $100-a couple thousand on birthday and Christmas gifts each year…I don’t know your past chicks. MGTOW allows you to spoil your friend’s kids, nieces, nephews, parents, sisters or whoever you so desire – with either your time, texts, gifts or thoughts. MGTOW gives you latitude with people. MGTOW allows you to fall asleep whenever you want. MGTOW allows you to avoid having to pinch yourself as you lay on the bathroom floor, trying to stay awake during those long term relationships. MGTOW allows you to socialize. MGTOW allows you to keep your friends. MGTOW allows you to eat off disposable plates and with disposable silverware. MGTOW allows you to shop on Amazon instead of spending your Sunday afternoons looking for the next accessory at Lowes, Home Depot, Hobby Lobby, Menards…it goes on and on. MGTOW allows you to eat Cocoa Puffs at midnight without either having to get her a bowl or justifying your decision to eat those. MGTOW allows your gains to be your gains, not her gains just so you make sure you keep her satisfied. MGTOW allows you look like a slob. MGTOW saves you mad cash. MGTOW allows you to spend the money you spend on her and the money that the kids she wants you to give her would cost. MGTOW allows you to not worry about how she acts at family gatherings. MGTOW allows you live without shame on account of her behavior. MGTOW allows you to keep the family members that she otherwise wouldn’t get along with. MGTOW allows you to keep your dignity. MGTOW allows you to honor God. MGTOW allows you to take risk, financially, in your career or in that kayak or biking trip that you wanted to go on. MGTOW allows you to walk to the Apple store, Nike Outlet or GameStop instead of making stops at Forever21, Vera Bradley, Starbucks, comparing you to the models at Abercrombie & Fitch, Macy’s, Starbucks again, complaining she shouldn’t have had you buy that Cinnabon for her, looking for baby clothes at the Baby Gap and the $80 you dropped at Cheesecake. MGTOW allows you to stay in shape without being accused for cheating with the gym. MGTOW allows you to have personal goals for your life. MGTOW allows you to play that extra game for money like Woody Harrelson in White Man Can’t Jump…and not just do it once, but twice, thrice and quatorze. MGTOW allows you to keep your old Pokemon Cards, Storm Trooper figurines and Ken Griffey Jr. rookie cards, and not have to worry about hiding them in the safety deposit box. MGTOW allows you to crack corny jokes and not be criticized for it. MGTOW allows you to not have your masculinity on the line when she sees you lose to the guy she’s been eyeing in the torn jeans, tattoos and affliction shirt that is two sizes too tight. MGTOW allows you not have to worry about her cheating on you after she watches “Magic Mike” with her girlfriends. MGTOW allows you have your political views and not worry about getting called out by her liberal, feminazi girlfriends. MGTOW allows you to break that finger or pull that hamstring at softball and not have her shut down your weekend warrior career. MGTOW allows you to be free from comparisons to Brad Pitt, Chris Pratt, Johnny Depp, Justin Bieber, Tom Brady, Bryce Harper, Steph Curry, Chris Brown or any man in a suit in tie that looks like he’s got it together. MGTOW allows you to be the person that you want to be. MGTOW allows you to make the impact that you want to make on people, your community and the world. MGTOW allows you to openly talk about politics, history or geography and not have someone roll their eyes at you. MGTOW saves you $1,000 a year in dinner dates. MGTOW allows you to Uber home from a night out or drive home from a night out and not worry about holding anyone’s hair back or feeding them saltines all night. MGTOW allows you to get up and move to Wyoming if you need a break from the city life. MGTOW allows you to go to Star Wars when it’s out instead of waiting for it to come to you for purchase one year later. MGTOW allows you to be wholly you. MGTOW allows you to be holy. MGTOW allows you to see yourself for who you are. MGTOW allows you to have introspection. MGTOW allows you to be FREE.

What is MGTOW’s Purpose?

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What is MGTOW’s Purpose?

What’s up MGTOW men. The next couple of days are looking good. We hit the weekend and barring anything not on the radar, I’ll be able to make a few more videos than normal and hopefully will have one up each day this weekend. So, pop this video through your headphones as you’re getting a lift in, going on a walk, grilling up some food, gaming or just relaxing after whatever this work has thrown at you.

Today I’m going to rant a little bit. I’ve written out a lot of what I’m going to say going forward, just because it’s a very tangential topic and video today with a lot of content and I want to make sure I get it in coherently. I hope that works with you guys and you get something out of it that you can take with you ahead.

Today I’m going to talk about MGTOW’s greatest purpose and what this purpose does for us as men and MGTOW men.  

I would say that I have been MGTOW for a little over a year now, having came across it on YouTube in July of 2016 after watching some Sandman videos, this guy named MKrafts (who I wish made more videos). He had a really interesting experience that was fundamental in creating my belief in MGTOW. He is from the United States and his dating experiences in the western world had failed. After serving in the U.S. Military he decided to date overseas and shortly after ended up getting married to a girl in Russia or Eastern Europe.

I’ll be the first to say that some of those girls are very attractive and I think that there is a culture of respect that is still underlying in that area of the world that makes them come across as more submissive than American women and more in line with natural female nature. Long story short he got married to her, brought her over the U.S. and after a relationship of parasitism in which she lazily hung around and milked off of his money, they ended up getting divorced.

Now, this dude is only in his late 20s, 31 or 32 at the oldest and he has some great insights and opinions about women and MGTOW. He doesn’t make any videos anymore, which you often see with some MGTOW channels – this idea of MGTOW burnout. I hope that he hasn’t fallen back to his old ways and ended up being blue pilled by western culture. But, I tell this little anecdote because this particular anecdote of his stuck with me. Why it stuck with me so much was because of the pain that was in his voice and the experience that his ex-wife put him through. It tore him apart, caused him shame and led to his own pain – all the while showing me through this example that eastern women aren’t the cure all for feminazism that has engulfed the United States, Canada and Western Europe.

Without MGTOW, without the philosophy of accepting culture for the way that it is and for the way that women are within the culture I live in the United States, we have knowledge. We have the knowledge that we can harness to avoid the pain that unfortunately came to MKrafts, who was a chill, reasonable, hard working and simple guy – not someone that you would wish a divorce upon or any other strife that you could wish upon a person.

I got a couple of comments in my last video, “Women Made MGTOW”, from two guys MGTOW values and mustno3. By boiling down their comments and my thoughts on them, basically I came to the conclusion that MGTOW at it’s highest form exists to maximize the enjoyment, productivity and purpose of a man’s life in a gynocentric world. At it’s most enlightened level, MGTOW gives you time, it gives you money but most importantly, it gives you peace of mind. It’s a red pill of liberation that frees you from standards you cannot satisfy, maintain, reach or sustain. Standards that a work driven, female-centered, money centric world has created. A world that is lacking in identity that is gained from within.

If there is anything that you get from my video today, I want it to be those very facts. That MGTOW maximizes one’s life and protects that life from strife, pain and suffering that many decisions can cause and all the things that the deceitfulness of the world and our own brokenness can cause.

MGTOW is liberation, and that’s part of why you see so much overlap in MGTOW with libertarianism and entrepreneurship in particular. MGTOW puts you in a place where you begin to work to be satisfied in yourself and to build yourself up. At the end of the day, you own nothing other than your thoughts. Everything you do comes from your thoughts in your mind, all of your actions and thus where you go in life. You own nothing in life other than that, permanently that is. You did not create this world, you’re not in command of other people’s actions and most important to know – you will never be able to tame the thoughts of a woman. Thus, don’t try to. Just aim to control your own thoughts and create the best you that you can, because that’s what you owe to yourself and to God.

I think of one of my favorite MGTOW media makers on YouTube, ImmortalMindz when I think about the simplification and liberation process that goes on when you accept MGTOW. He talks about how he has lost any interest in television, owning a television, mainstream entertainment and even watching sports to some extent – all of these outlets were once elemental in his happiness and daily life before his MGTOW realization. When you go MGTOW you don’t care about the thoughts around you, other than to be aware of them so that you can vet what’s bad and speak to other people with educated thought. You don’t want that television anymore, you don’t want to be passive in anything you do. You may play video games, listen to music, read, lift – all of these things stimulate the brain and improve you – even video games. Consumption of mindless messaging is destroyed, because it doesn’t relate to you and it doesn’t improve you. We are all entrusted with the minas and the talents. How you use it is our challenge, and MGTOW ensures that you use it effectively and efficiently.

I was never up to date in my television watching, haven’t consistently watched a show (other than sports, which is related to a lot of the work and jobs that I’ve had in the past) since Aqua Teen Hunger Force. Shows that don’t appear in the mainstream media and aren’t apart of the mainstream lexicon. I have no television that I use, I have no video game system other than an old N64, Game Boy Advance and Color and the occasional indie games and RTS games that I will pop in from time to time for mental hygiene and mind sharpening. I have no Netflix, Hulu, HBO Go or anything streaming subscription of any kind. I believe that Sandman has commented on this many times, discussing the erosion of the interest in these things when you go MGTOW. This is because MGTOW centers you on spending your time rightly and in focusing on making yourself the best man you can be in the world today.

I think I’ve clearly established what MGTOW’s purpose is and why its there. The main reasons that is. I don’t want to gloss over the fact that MGTOW is an emotion and energy saver. I’ve noticed a stark difference in the amount of emotional and physical energy that I’ve had since becoming MGTOW. I am able to sleep more, I have more time in the day, I’m able to take better care of myself, my diet improves, and most importantly my view of myself changes and improves because I’m not basing my self worth on the daily evaluations of this other person. Often times people might say that it is your fault for being in a relationship that would cause you to self evaluate like that, but let’s face it – relationships naturally do that and because of social media, women are going to constantly be building that standard for you that they base you on.

Dovetailing off of an article that mentions Ayn Rand and her idea that she coins as her “sense of life”, a philosophy or own our beliefs and views are necessary because “each of us needs to understand his own convictions consciously, to be able to put his sense of life into words. Otherwise we don’t really have a clear idea of what we believe or what is motivating us to make our biggest decisions – or whether it is true. We need to know what we think on philosophical questions, because our answers can affect the course of our lives. And the sense of life that dominates nations or cultures can determine their fates.”

Wow. That is weighty. The fate of cultures and nations depends on the philosophical convictions that you possess, and people without those convictions end up going down personal paths that are completely devoid of conviction and direction. I would compare that to a man that is currently trapped in the blue pill paradox of life, believing that he has to attract a woman, date a woman, marry a woman, impregnate a woman and work for a women. He doesn’t have a philosophy and he doesn’t know why he wants these things. Not knowing why you want something, such as a mate and kids leads to unwanted children, unhappy marriages and the general erosion of the family, all of which lead to the erosion of society – which is what we see today.

MGTOW provides this philosophical conviction in regards to women, and in some ways as it relates to finance, careers, politics and religion. It saves you many things and allows many more things into your life, which I will address tomorrow in my MGTOW saves and MGTOW allows diatribe.

Thanks for watching and or listening today, guys. I hope you have a stellar weekend of freedom and relaxation. Sunrisehoodie, done.

Women Made MGTOW

YouTube Video: “Women Made MGTOW”

The first rule of MGTOW is, don’t talk about MGTOW. The second rule is, DO NOT TALK ABOUT MGTOW.

Before I begin, if you don’t know the reference that I am making here, I am really sad and surprised for you. I’ve found that a lot of Fight Club fans are also MGTOW devotees. There is a lot to be extrapolated from both, and I think that Chuck Palahniuk and Tyler Durden’s character in particular are closet MGTOWs, but that is for another day and another video.

If you haven’t read the book or seen the movie, I’ll personally send you my copy of the book and offer you one day of access to my iTunes account so that you can watch the movie. It’s the only movie that I have on iTunes, only one that I own digitally. Just kidding, I’m not going to do that. Just go watch it, now.

But, this brings up a serious question about MGTOW and spreading the message of MGTOW. How do you share the news that we know, where is it appropriate and is it even a functional part of MGTOW.

While the MGTOW community is growing and has been increasing at a rapid pace over the last year that I have been exposed to its philosophies, it’s nowhere near the Anna Sarkesian, Oprah-esque levels that feminism has garnered.

Frankly, it’s never going to be like that. MGTOW will never reach the levels of notoriety and popularity that feminism has. For one thing, society wouldn’t accept it. And number two, because of the male default to side with women and protect them, men will continually lobby on behalf of feminists and make room for them. Women will never support a MGTOW philosophy because it doesn’t advance their agenda. Male support of feminism creates social acceptance for females and males and advances the biological leaning for men to gain the graces of females in order to procreate. Biologically, men think it is to their advantage to jon feminism.

Secondly, women have the in-group mentality programmed in them. I haven’t looked at any statistical data or studies to support this, but based on communities like MGTOW, my gut tells me that men are more likely to go “rogue”, not ask for help and not team up under ideas prompted by a group when given the choice.

I think that this is why MGTOW is so popular, libertarianism is growing and subsequently more men are opting out of both college and the work world and are trying their hand at being an entrepreneur.

And if you look at things, there is no one single MGTOW voice that stands above all others. The majority of social movements have one or two icons that you can point to as the leaders, although MGTOW isn’t at that size yet. It won’t be for a while either, and because of the individualistic and secretive nature of MGTOW, I don’t think that it will ever be. I believe that most MGTOW will be okay with that as well, because the majority of men that go into MGTOW don’t have an interest in creating their MGTOW kingdom and are generally men who don’t want attention drawn to them.

This brings me to the point of this video and the point that I think should be applied to how you approach MGTOW and think about spreading it.

MGTOW is a product of women, not a product of men, and thus men don’t need to be evangelists on behalf of MGTOW. In fact, being a MGTOW evangelist will almost never convert a blue pill man to red pill. Red pills have to be something that blue pill men take when they realize that there is a need, when reality is realized for themselves.

There is a video on YouTube from the “Groundwork for the Metaphysics of MGTOW” titled, “Women Created MGTOW”. He leads off the description of his video stating that There is a mistaken assumption that MGTOW is some organized core of vocal men evangelizing other men to abandon marriage and relationships. This is not true. MGTOW is little but a rally flag; it is a group in the same way that those who hold a driver’s license are a group. MGTOW is a product of women.

I absolutely agree with this statement. When I go about my day I don’t think of proselytizing on behalf of MGTOW, I just enjoy the moments in which I can exhibit the amount of freedom that I have, particularly in regards to time, because I do not have a girlfriend. There is little that can be accomplished by approaching a man that has never been jaded by a financially deplorable and emotionally parasitic relationship with MGTOW teachings and philosophy. It means nothing. I never knew of MGTOW before dating for the first time at the age of 21, and I would have never thought to join MGTOW, seeing it as an extremist way of living that is followed by a group of bitter men.

Things have changed after my two experiences dating, and those experiences alone are what give me the daily fuel for being and staying a MGTOW. My motivation to pursue a MGTOW lifestyle comes from a combination of my personal experiences and my intrinsic motivation and direction that I want to take with my life.

I think that it’s important for us as men to realize that we are not here to replace the experiences that we have had with women and feminists, causing us to become MGTOW. Rather, we are here to serve as reminders, as forums, as ideators and as friends to stoke that fire that is burning.

I remember stumbling upon my first MGTOW videos ever in the summer of 2016. I was enthralled by the content and the analysis, but the biggest remembrance from this encounter was that another man had the exact same emotions and reaction from being exposed to female nature, despite dating different women. We have all been exposed to different women, but the result has been the same for us as MGTOW men.

So the next time that you are hanging with blue pill men, and the thing to advise is, don’t cut yourself off from hanging out with these guys. By doing this you can make them curious, but more importantly it freshens up by contrast the life that you could tangibly be living in spending frivolously the time that you have on women. Bring up your opinions on women, give them your hot takes, and I would bet you that they have similar opinions, but the biological lure created by the physical attraction is clouding their vision.

As with everything, give it time and continue to cultivate the life that you want, not the life that society wants for you. Because, at the end of the day, that’s the point of MGTOW.

MGTOW – She’s Not Worth It | Amar’e Stoudemire’s Baby Momma

First off, I want to apologize for any echo that is going on in this video. I just headed out to graduate school and I’m not in a room that is conducive to recording audio. Maybe I’ll aim to get some egg carton shells going to help insulate this room, although I’m obviously not bringing in any money from this YouTube channel or a related Patreon account to make professional audio adjustments. So I’ll just make do with what I can right now.

I speak her not to condemn, that’s not my job to do. I speak as a reminder of the strength we have as men and how to avoid relinquishing it.

In today’s video I want to look at this question raised by Amar’e Stoudemire, six-time NBA all-star and 14-year veteran in the NBA. Is having sex really worth $4,333 a month in child support? Is it ever? Because this is a question that not just Amar’e but countless athletes and entertainers are just blowing right past every single day.

I just found out through a random string of tweets that Amar’e is now being sued by a 36-year old woman, Quynn Lovett, who according to Dailymail.com, contends that “he fathered a little girl last year when playing for the Heat”.

Apparently Lovett tried to sue him in Massachusetts courts, where she was previously a resident, and now she is taking it to the Florida courts, where she got Stoudemire to fess up that he could be the father of Zoe Renee. Based on what I see, I’m 99 percent sure that he is the father as he is paying $4,333 per month in child support and has coughed up over $22,000 to handle her legal fees already.

This is not enough for Lovett as she wants permanent child support and complete custody of the child. Stoudemire will likely give her complete custody, and the Floridian courts will most likely grant her the permanent child support she desires.

Let me do some quick math $4,333×12 for lets say 46 years = $2.3 million dollars. For a man that has made over $160, that’s small potatoes. But that’s not what we are getting at here.

Stoudemire is currently the father of four children with the woman he has been dating since 2002 and has been married to since 2012. He is at risk of not just losing $2.3 million dollars from this but his marriage and his children.

Life is as much about the decisions that you don’t make as the ones that you do. No sexual encounter with a woman is worth that money, that amount of time that you lose and most importantly, the reputation that you lose.

This brings up the first of the points that I’m making from this:

1) Women have the potential to lead you to terrible decisions

Like Odysseus telling his men to tie him to the mast to avoid the sirens, a man’s urge for women is one of the strongest urges he can experience, cutting deep into the strands of his DNA to spread his seed. If you don’t understand that this is simply a biological urge, you could end up caught up with a mid-30s chick who has no job and has children, and eventually a lawsuit and child support payments.

A woman will consider a man’s prospects and status, even if they plan to have a one-night stand together. It is apart of her DNA and her urge to be with a man that will provide for her and the child that she bears, even if that’s not her intention at all. A man won’t. Amar’e won’t consider Lovett’s lack of a job, direction and current single-mother status. He just wants to make sure that she is healthy, which is evident through his attraction for her.

This makes the woman even more dangerous to you as men. Be aware of this, as cravings come on even more expediently for men than women.

Lovett’s mom said, “all you need to know about my daughter is that she’s smart as a whip”. She was drawn to Amar’e from his 6-10 stature, but rooted in this comment was her plan to get pregnant to draw income from him to support herself and her kid. This is a personified example of the praying mantis devouring her prey. It could be any of us.

2) A man will always bear the shame, the blame and she will get the fame

Obviously the article is going to be centered around Amar’e as that’s who the public knows. He will bear the shame, much like Bill Clinton bore the shame, not Monica Lewinsky, who was equally as culpable. In the Bible you look at David and his shame, not Bathsheba. We don’t consider the temptress, just the temptee. Men have a far greater public image, regardless of their status in life. They are the target and will be targeted in their shame.

As men you have far more to lose amongst society. Women risk losing respect amongst their social groups, which is based in how tribes and villages were designed at the beginning of civilization, where women spent the majority of their time conversing with the other women in their largely domesticated life.

In this situation the female is framed as being smart. Not exploitative or conniving, but smart and resourceful rather. Men, we have a target on our backs.

3) We are weak when it comes to women

If you know your weaknesses, suddenly your weaknesses lose half of the power that they once possessed on you. Being aware is half the battle in overcoming something. Thinking in my life for example, the more time that I spend away from family and alone, the more susceptible I become to falling for a women or looking for their attention. I’m hungry for some affirmation and value. In these moments I need to call a friend, talk to a family member, or doing something social that doesn’t put you in peril for the throngs of a women.

The risk vs. reward in this situation is almost comical to look at. Amar’e had almost nothing to gain other than an orgasm, which is a pitiful reason to put your family, career and reputation at risk. But in the moment sex seems far more important and great than those things which you already possess. It’s scary, but it’s our biology as men.

I think that there is a lot of egoism in the MGTOW community, claiming that women are undeniably weaker than men. I think that in many areas, and definitely physically, this is true. But when it comes to our biology and the urge to procreate, we become weak kneed. Don’t put yourself in these situations. We need community beyond the screen and in the flesh as well with other MGTOW men.

I hope you enjoyed this red pill dosage today. If you have any comments, topic requests or suggestions, please leave a message below or email me at sunrisehoodie@gmail.com. Also, don’t forget to subscribe, as the more support I receive, the more the red pill prescription will be filled.

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Do We Live in a Gynocentric World? – MGTOW

Urban Dictionary

Gynocentrism

Always putting the woman first even if it is to the detriment of others. Often results in female supremacy.

Man 1 – You should always pay your woman’s bills.

Man 2 – But aren’t men and women equal? Shouldn’t she pay her own bills?

Feel free to add to this list that I have created regarding where and how I’ve seen gynocentrism expressed in our world.

    • You put yourself at risk in a workplace is you’re not gynocentric. If you speak your mind as a male and don’t agree with favoritism towards women and the continued preaching of their strength beyond what is true of a female you risk being fired and knocked off your climb to the top of the corporate ladder.
    • Men admire women and women admire women. Men don’t admire men, in most cases. Instagram models garner massive followings from both men who want to have sex with them and women who want to be them. These women are portrayed as having a special something that the most popular men on Instagram wouldn’t even be considered as having.
    • “You’re such a good gentleman, you’re wife will be so proud of you”. My mom used to say this when I did things like hold the door for her, do the dishes, carry in the groceries, sweep the kitchen, or do any household chore that has been traditionally given to women – at least before the 21st century. Now, looking back after dating two different women, I realize how slanted and pathetic this statement is. It’s not even a compliment, it’s a derisive remark of emasculation.
    • Look at the mainstream sitcoms that muddle our minds and dominate television. In all of them the female, wife or girlfriend is in control and seemingly has it together. King of Queens, Everybody Loves Raymond and even Star Wars portray men as helpless, in need of direction, deplorable, inept and utilitarian. Decisions and actions are only made based on the rules defined by women and the need to maintain that woman as a part of their life. Anakin essentially becomes Darth Vader through a gynocentric pull.
    • You don’t see commercials for women about what to buy your husband on Valentine’s Day…or Christmas…or even Father’s Day, let’s face it…the amount of money spent on Father’s Day pales in comparison to how the United States monetizes Mother’s Day. Men are swamped with commercials and the invisible societal and marital push to buy chocolate candies, flowers and diamond jewelry in order to maintain and keep afloat what would become a perilous relationship if those things didn’t exist!
    • Happy wife, happy life. We joke about it and laugh about it…but many men don’t realize that they actually take this seriously and castrate themselves in the process in order to avoid conflict and keep their biological craving to reproduce fed and viable. Bob Brenly, a former MLB coach and broadcaster would always say that the key to a long marriage is the following phrase: “yes dear, you’re right, I’m sorry.” It’s like men know they’re losing their wits when saying and believing these things, but we still spew them out like their from a wise sage or coming from the Bible, having been passed down through the test of time for eons.
    • Laws aren’t made to protect men. Laws are made to protect women and to advance their lives while making men’s lives more difficult. Why do you think that the highest suicide rate of any demographic is men, specifically white and American Indian men – who had a suicide rate of 22 deaths per 100,000 between 2005 and 2007. Everyone should watch a YouTube TEDx Talk by Deepika Bhardwaj, titled “Men – The Forgotten Gender”, in which she talks about how men in the Indian society are suffering due to the draconian Indian Penal Code made for the protection of women but ignores men and their issues. If a man says this he is weak. If a woman says this, it’s taken seriously.

 

  • Women are favored in a myriad of settings. Conversely, men are expected to be expendable and utilitarian. I know it’s from Quora, but a post from a user on Quora stated that:

 

    • 97 percent of workplace fatalities are male
    • 99 percent of war casualties are male
    • Prostate cancer kills just as many people as breast cancer, but only receives a fraction of the funding.
    • Men receive longer prison sentences than women for the same crime
    • Women are considered the default caregiver in custody disputes
    • Women make up a majority of alimony recipients
    • Less than one percent of domestic abuse shelters are for men
    • A study showed that when the names of boys were removed from tests before being graded by female teachers, those boys scored 30 percent higher than when their names were included on the tests.
    • You put yourself at risk in a workplace is you’re not gynocentric. If you speak your mind as a male and don’t agree with favoritism towards women and the continued preaching of their strength beyond what is true of a female you risk being fired and knocked off your climb to the top of the corporate ladder.
    • Men admire women and women admire women. Men don’t admire men, in most cases. Instagram models garner massive followings from both men who want to have sex with them and women who want to be them. These women are portrayed as having a special something that the most popular men on Instagram wouldn’t even be considered as having.
    • “You’re such a good gentleman, you’re wife will be so proud of you”. My mom used to say this when I did things like hold the door for her, do the dishes, carry in the groceries, sweep the kitchen, or do any household chore that has been traditionally given to women – at least before the 21st century. Now, looking back after dating two different women, I realize how slanted and pathetic this statement is. It’s not even a compliment, it’s a derisive remark of emasculation.
    • Look at the mainstream sitcoms that muddle our minds and dominate television. In all of them the female, wife or girlfriend is in control and seemingly has it together. King of Queens, Everybody Loves Raymond and even Star Wars portray men as helpless, in need of direction, deplorable, inept and utilitarian. Decisions and actions are only made based on the rules defined by women and the need to maintain that woman as a part of their life. Anakin essentially becomes Darth Vader through a gynocentric pull.
    • You don’t see commercials for women about what to buy your husband on Valentine’s Day…or Christmas…or even Father’s Day, let’s face it…the amount of money spent on Father’s Day pales in comparison to how the United States monetizes Mother’s Day. Men are swamped with commercials and the invisible societal and marital push to buy chocolate candies, flowers and diamond jewelry in order to maintain and keep afloat what would become a perilous relationship if those things didn’t exist!
    • Happy wife, happy life. We joke about it and laugh about it…but many men don’t realize that they actually take this seriously and castrate themselves in the process in order to avoid conflict and keep their biological craving to reproduce fed and viable. Bob Brenly, a former MLB coach and broadcaster would always say that the key to a long marriage is the following phrase: “yes dear, you’re right, I’m sorry.” It’s like men know they’re losing their wits when saying and believing these things, but we still spew them out like their from a wise sage or coming from the Bible, having been passed down through the test of time for eons.
    • Laws aren’t made to protect men. Laws are made to protect women and to advance their lives while making men’s lives more difficult. Why do you think that the highest suicide rate of any demographic is men, specifically white and American Indian men – who had a suicide rate of 22 deaths per 100,000 between 2005 and 2007. Everyone should watch a YouTube TEDx Talk by Deepika Bhardwaj, titled “Men – The Forgotten Gender”, in which she talks about how men in the Indian society are suffering due to the draconian Indian Penal Code made for the protection of women but ignores men and their issues. If a man says this he is weak. If a woman says this, it’s taken seriously.

MGTOW: The Plan B Boy – She Will Always Have a Man in the Bullpen

OnePoll.com Stats

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Half of women have a man on deck.

An article in the Medical Daily revealed that a survey done by OnePoll.com, an online market research company, detailed that half of women who are married or in relationships have a Plan B man on standby who is “ready and waiting”. This is already a high percentage but many more women were likely being dishonest or do have a man on deck but failed to realize it. These women have an insurance policy, and the may be lingering on social media, an ex-boyfriend, an acquaintance during high school or college, the work husband, or even gym buddy. Subtle small talk over months or years add up, and she is cultivating the man on deck, or the man in the bullpen as I like to call it, in case of one small slip on behalf of her current boyfriend or husband.

“However, to avoid playing the field and going through all the bases, women have taken a shortcut to get back to the finish line with a Plan B man.”

To further intensify the very encouraging nature of this study…the man in the bullpen is far from a rookie. He is a seasoned veteran that has been loitering around for seven years. Upwards of four in 10 women said they got to know this guy as they were with their current partner, while nearly 4 of 10 women said he was “on the scene” – whether at parties, in a similar social group, at work or while working out, far before the relationship began with their current boyfriend.

Whether it’s the distance that has preserved his freshness to her, the sexual tension that has existed or because she believes she needs some insurance, this man in the bullpen has been able to preserve this freshness that the current boyfriend simply won’t be able to grasp. It’s an unfair advantage.

The survey states that for some, the feelings are stronger than they are for the current boyfriend. One in 10 women confessed their Plan B has professed their undying love to them, while two in 10 knew that they Plan B would “drop everything” for them. Furthermore, 15 percent responded with feeling more for the Plan B man than their significant other. Frightening.

“This could spark fear in men across the UK and be great news for women looking for that extra bit of love and care so that their attentions aren’t swayed.”

Half of these women take the “never say never” approach when it comes to hooking up or dating this man in the bullpen. Thus, she won’t cut off this guy and won’t destroy this relationship in the event that she needs its resources. With the accessibility of Instagram, Facebook and Twitter the danger is amplified. All it takes is a bad date, a boring vacation, some minor arguments and she could jump on any one of these social media sites during some down time before bed and kindle a serious relationship with this Plan B individual.

This article in the Medical Daily is highly blue pilled and puts the responsibility on the shoulders of the man to be “attentive to their women’s needs, even when the relationship is on the rocks.” The responsibility should be on the shoulders of both people in the relationship, as the alternative would mean that the girl is always meant to be entertained and can’t generate her own ways to spend time.

A relationship shouldn’t be a game. It should be a building block for two people’s lives in order to bring success and enrichment to both of them. The game is immature; it’s indicative of high school and college dating behaviors, especially in the western world. It stems from the need to feed those entertainment seeking neurons in the mind of the girl who wants to be stimulated by a game she keeps on the table, like a long drawn out game of Risk.

I know I don’t want that. I have enough to worry about with other areas of my life.

But, this is the female’s take on the situation:

“the good news is that this [the game] isn’t a chore. On the contrary, it’s a heck of a lot of fun [if the game is prolonged].”

I’ll opt out.

A relationship should be enjoyable and at times exciting. But if you’re expecting to be married happily ever after to a person then there are going to be far more doldrums than there are peaks. It’s unsustainable and unreasonable to think that constant entertainment, games, fun and excitement is a constant in long term relationships. That’s why many of them fail today, hence bringing in the Plan B man.

Days Before Red Pill

Back during days of blue pill weakness before Morpheus snuck into my matrix, I was drowning in blue pills. I had never had a girlfriend at this point, which was at the end of my sophomore year of college. Looking back, that was a true blessing. Nearly reach 21 years of age and avoiding a relationship was a gift that I didn’t realize I possessed.

But, genetics took over and I fell for a girl that I had my eyes on for a little over a year. She was very attractive and as usual, at first I thought we had more in common that I would later realize.

There were so many red flags. My prefrontal cortex must have taken a deep sleep, as I simply avoided the signs that this wouldn’t end well.  rebounding from a breakup with a dude that treated her poorly…but was well endowed. For one thing, I had to live in the perpetual shadow of that. After the breakup she bounced around and months later we had a three-week course together.

I happened to give a speech in class about my life that caught her attention. She probably wasn’t even aware that I was in the class with her prior to that, but because of what my speech entailed she caught interest in me. I was blue in the face with blue pills to keep her. Spending money, sending her gifts, courting her with long flowery texts and staying up way too late to have phone conversations and Facetime calls with her.

We were going long distance for three months between sophomore and junior year, during which I saw the first signs of her Plan B man getting loose in the bullpen. I distinctly remember a snapchat message that included “you’ll have to love me more than Adrean.” No idea what prompted this, but I was simply a pawn in a game. Almost two years to the date passes and I wake up one morning to a call from her stating that she cheated on me with him. The writing was on the wall the entire time. There were more signs and detailed tributaries branching off of the main river here, but there is no need to get into it – because the Plan B man warming up in the bullpen pulled through at the end of the day, and the thesis is proved. As soon as our relationship dried up, the bullpen was called to as it was with me and my ex.

To this day, about a year and a half later, she is still dating the guy that was warming up in the bullpen.

Look in the Sky, Look for the Vultures

Look above you. The Plan B man is like a vulture circling in the sky for you to leave and for his prey, the girl, to be available. Vultures don’t explicitly attack if they don’t have to. They’d rather let the other person do the hard work or the other animal to do the hard work and kill their prey. That’s their intention. They want to be efficient and only enter into the picture when they know what they are there for is available, the girl.

Don’t create an opportunity for this vulture. Better yet, don’t be there at all. Better yet be so far away from any potential prey, because unless you throw a perfect game – which there have been 23 of those in all of MLB history – she is going to go to the bullpen.

Related Content & Articles:

ImmortalMindz YouTube Video: She will ALWAYS have a man on deck

The Real Daytime YouTube Video: Tamar’s First Engagement

Medical Daily Article: The Back-Up Plan: Half Of Women In Relationships Have ‘Plan B’ Man They Can Run Away With

 

MGTOW: Analysis – RGIII and Why there are No MGTOW in the NFL

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As invulnerable as J.J. Watt or Tom Brady may be, no NFL player is immune to the temptation of a woman. And when you’re in the NFL, there are PLENTY of them to sift through.

Apparently NFL quarterback Robert Griffin III is the latest victim of the every so plentiful field of women for NFL stars, and it looks like it’s going to take him on as bumpy of a ride as his NFL career has been thus far.

Just last week on July 2nd, Griffin and his new fiancee, Grete Sadeiko welcomed their first child – RGIII’s second kid, but first with Grete. This is hardly a record ratio of franchises considering Antonio Cromartie’s 14 kids with eight women ($336,000 in child support annually), but considering he just divorced his previous wife 11 months earlier, RGIII may be on that direction unfortunately.

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According to Bossip.com, RGIII’s ex-wife of three years is demanding $36,000 per month, not including any child support that he will have to pay for the child that they had together in 2015.

For those of you who aren’t familiar with the RGIII timeline, here is a brief rundown of the events.

RGIII Timeline

The Skinny on Sadeiko

Sadeiko is from Estonia and earned a track scholarship to compete at Florida State University where she studied psychology and just graduated this past spring. Her sister, Grit, competed in the 2016 Olympics in Rio as a heptathlete.

Grete

Grete wasn’t just on the team at Florida State University but was highly successful, being a second team All-America selection two different years. She began to contact RGIII while still enrolled at FSU.

MGTOW Learnings

The Blessings of Mediocrity

What I’ve noticed is that a man is most insusceptible to relationships with women when he is in a “mediocre” stage in his life. When a man’s career is going poor he may not attract a lot of woman but the need to pursue a woman may be strong in order to counteract a struggling career. Conversely, when the career is going well, so are the woman. Woman will not pay the interest when money is not coming in and it’s not expected to come in.

In the case of RGIII, he’s suffered from both. Dawdling in the realm of steady mediocrity will lend itself to the greatest protection from the blue pill poisoning on our minds.

As RGIII’s career began to take off at Baylor University in Waco, Tx. so did his relationship with his ex-wife, Rebecca Liddicoat. In 2009 the couple began to date and they would stay together through Griffin’s rise to the Heisman Trophy before getting married in 2013.

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While this is speculation, as his career in the NFL with the Washington Redskins began to be riddled with injuries, his marriage began to be riddled with its own issues. To counteract this, Griffin began to dabble with his now fiancee.

I’ve found that I am very weak and more susceptible to pursuing women when my confidence is low and my path in life has been stymied.

This is where the blessings of mediocrity come in. While it doesn’t sound glamorous, I would relate this to our drinking habits. We drink our sorrows away, we drink for celebration. We date and have sex to forget our pain and to celebrate, and on a larger level – because we biologically think we are ready to provide. Both ends can lead to the financial and reputation grave.

Sniping for a Simp

Apparently Grete attracted the gaze and interest of RGIII through repeatedly liking RGIII’s Instagram posts. Being in the limelight as RGIII’s fiancee, Grete has kept her social media accounts on private, but from the looks of it, Grete does it for the gram every once in awhile.

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The conversation first started between RGIII and Grete on Twitter during a three month period when RGIII drifted away from his ex-wife. I’ll give Grete props for moving her account to private, which illustrates some self respect and respect for RGIII…although simp sniping from social media is not a good sign.

Grete can do it anytime from anywhere. Being around the dominant, money making “alphas” of the NFL puts RGIII’s blonde in the line of sight of all kindz of men who would like to have her for a night or two.

There was clearly no respect paid by Grete for RGIII’s ex-wife and the child that they had together as she began to stalk the struggling quarterback on social media. This only points to hypergamy and unfaithfulness as we move forward.

If this instagram message from RGIII doesn’t illustrate the extent to which he was blue pilled by her social media graces, I don’t know what does:

RGIII rant to Grete
Relationship Fastforwarding

As I said before, Grete and RGIII were posting pictures on social media together just months after the divorce was settled between RGIII and his ex-wife. In 11 months from the divorce date RGIII popped the question, but not after knocking up Grete six or seven months earlier.

It makes no sense for RGIII’s career for him to have a second child at this point, and to get married again. He is already responsible for one child and he still hasn’t even secured a job in the NFL yet after flubbing in Washington and Cleveland last year. Sure, he had earned more money before stepping on the field than any player in NFL history, but the powers of divorce, alimony, child support and the US court system prevents any sum of money from being completely safe.

Greta Sadeiko Engaged

Secondly, Grete is in her sexual prime right now and will be for the next five or six years. For her to want to forego the field for a child and a diminished body at the age of 23-24 clearly means that she wanted to ensure she would get a piece of the pie before their relationship failed.

This follows the exact formula that Chicago Cubs shortstop Addison Russell factored into with his soon to be ex-wife, Melisa Russell. Addison and Melisa had their first child at the age of 22 before they were married, and shortly thereafter you find Melisa with a ring on her finger.

By proxy you find RGIII bowing at one knee with a diamond just months before Grete pops out their first child. It’s all in the plan.

Oh, and let’s not forget about RGIII’s tattoo of homage.

Robert Griffin - Greta Tattoo
The NFL Needs a Red Pill Spokesperson

There are countless examples of NFL wives that have shamed their husbands, cost them millions and even their careers.

Imagine if Tom Brady, who has earned $196 million in earnings just as a quarterback (not including endorsements) opened up the media and NFL player’s minds to MGTOW. Not only would the sports world take note, but it would send reverberations throughout all sectors of entertainment and even the economy.

Not to mention that they won’t have to call bae immediately after games on Sunday after they’ve been banged up and bruised to pieces.

MGTOW Red Flags – She Doesn’t Know How to Grocery Shop

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I may be going out on a limb on this one. I have a reason for selecting this topic though and seeing it as a red flag.

I had a dating relationship that lasted a few months and one of the weird things that I noticed about this girl as we continued dating was that she had no concept of what was an appropriate price for groceries.

During the few times we were together in a grocery store I had to explain to her what a reasonable price was for basic food like chicken, beef, eggs, vegetables and coffee. More and more women are unaware of what a reasonable price is for groceries as they (and males) eat out more, live at home longer and even buy food online or on a whim at fast food locations or gas stations on a day-to-day grocery bill basis.

None of these choices are long term methods to shopping nor are they economically feasible for many millennial women. Those qualities alone are enough to make being unaware of how to grocery stop a red flag – merely for economical reasons. Now I don’t suggest coupon ladies or Dollar Tree-aholics are datable alternatives, but having no experience grocery shopping raises a number of concerns in my eyes.

1) She probably doesn’t appreciate money

I think of things this way. Money only becomes money when you either have it or realize the power it has when you possess it or the power it strips you of when you don’t have it. If you’ve never been in these situations then you can’t truly appreciate money or know what the cost of something means.

One of the most basic adjustments when you have to manage your own money and be on your own is adjusting how you eat and how you shop for what you eat. If the girl you’re dating has no idea that her almond milk that you buy her is running you $3.00 more than the gallon of 2% milk that you buy for yourself then she has clearly has no concept of money or even how to take care of herself as a shopper.

2) You can’t expect her to make good choices with money

Developing a strategy for grocery shopping, whether it’s determining what food you buy for yourself, when the sales appear or what grocery store or market to frequent, takes time. It takes failed trips to the store and decisions that warrant some remorse.

Thus, she’s got a long way to go in making purchase decisions. I often see a correlation between not knowing how to grocery shop and girlfriends that expect and don’t necessarily appreciate the expensive dinners that they try to guilt and negotiate themselves into with boyfriends.

3) There’s no way she is a healthy eater

Those that eat healthy eat for themselves, are attuned to their bodies, know what their body craves, needs and how it responds to certain foods. The normal adolescent surviving off the groceries that are provided by their parents or other caretaker hasn’t reached that level of specificity with their food yet and is probably living off of the dietary habits of those people – which are often highly unhealthy.

If she doesn’t know the price of groceries then she hasn’t been shopping for herself and doesn’t want to take the initiative to eat healthy.

A big mark against a woman in my eyes is a poor diet as it indicates a whole slew of negative traits like poor energy, irritability, lack of autonomy over her health and life, an unhealthy body and an unattractive body.

Maybe the biggest concern I have about this may be that it just bothers me. There is something about a 20+ woman who doesn’t know how to shop that irks me and makes me question why she lacks this experience. Is it a household structure? Super controlling parents? Laziness? Any of these things are red flags although I just get an unsettling feeling about a girl who doesn’t know the difference in price between a Wal-Mart and your local overpriced grocer.

4) Structure and discipline may be lacking

If she has been relying on expensive dinners through work, taco tuesday, fast food or ramen – this means that she hasn’t built the discipline to find the value for shopping. I would suspect that she believes she will have to make an adjustment at some point and learn to shop, but clearly it is a priority that is on the backburner.

Structure and discipline is important in a dating and marital setting. Without it at some level, health, order, cleanliness and mental clarity will falter.