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Welcome back MGTOW men. Before I get going on my rant about why soul mates are a lie and don’t exist, I want to plug the interview that I will be having with Darius from Darius – MGTOW Knowledge. He’s the man, check out his content, hit him up. We will be chatting it up tomorrow night at about 7 p.m. eastern if you’re down to listen in here on YouTube. I’ll link him in the description so you can give him some love. But, here we go.
Soul mates do not exist. They simply do not exist and are a mere fabrication of a world in which we are so fixated on signs and astrology – especially amongst women. And also guys, if you date a chick and either she or her mother is even halfway interested in what your sign is and other irrelevant stuff, you need to cut that off. But, that’s for another video, because today I want to toss out the idea of a soul mate and completely destroy this modern, westernized view of what it means to have a soul mate.
Just look at the movie industry in addition to the tabloid magazines and cesspool catalogs called Cosmopolitan. All of these movies are centered around the idea of a soul mate:
- Sleepless in Seattle
- You’ve got Mail – sorry Tom Hanks
- 500 Days of Summer
- Even in an obtuse way you have Romeo and Juliet and the Titanic speaking in favor of the idea of a soul mate and fostering the idea that our lives are disposable as long as we have a lover to die for. Which is the most nihilistic and corruptly romanticized notion that I’ve ever come across.
You wonder why Leo Dicaprio is surmised to be a red pill today. These roles maybe played a role, just a thought. Soul mates and the idea of a soul mate is the product of our culture in which our culture has no personal identity and satisfaction towards our lives. Thus, in order to give us a sign – which we are always asking for – men and women are always pleading for a sign to give us the faith that we are on the right path – we can always fall back on the crutch that a soul mate exists.
Just so that we can feel some self assurance about our lives and our failed relationships, this idea of the soul mate has been created. How many times have you heard it mentioned, oh that was relationship wasn’t meant to be – go and hookup with someone else until you find that person. For it to only happen again, and again and again. This is especially reiterated by women as in their minds so much more is riding on this perfect union between them and their husband, whereas the husband merely wants to provide for whoever that woman is, regardless if he deems her to be the only one in the world that deserves his love based on how the stars aligned in the sky.
Here’s what I’ve found to be proof that the soul mate is an asinine idea and why it’s further evidence that going MGTOW is the best route that one can take.
1) It creates unsustainable expectations
Think about this guys. If you’re at the top, if you’re her one guy – for life – you’re going to have to continually have to prove this. We as humans are very doubtful people. Our default position is to worry and doubt. If you don’t keep up that six-pack to the level of Joe Smith at the gym who she sees. If you develop some habits she doesn’t like or didn’t know about, if you don’t raise kids quite the way she had in mind, doubt creeps in her mind that you might not have been the one. Because, if you were the one, everything would be flawless. This is a product of egoism and self-centered thought. Men and women alike, the world wasn’t built with you at the center. It’s not Jon or Jane centric. This world was not made for us.
This is an example of egoism if anyone is to believe that the smallest glimmer of imperfection in a relationship is proof that the marriage wasn’t breathed into existence at the beginning of time. The most perfect things in life were never perfect. They were the things that you let go, let become imperfect for a while and continually improved because you weren’t afraid of failure.
This is also how fear is created. We are afraid to see an imperfection and to not measure up. As a result, we are not living and acting we are reacting. Both the man and the women in the relationship. No matter what, you’re going to let people down. The most important people in your life you’re going to let down. But, because of the programming of women today thanks to the mainstream, gynocentric media, when women do pursue a spouse they are programmed to believe that the spouse is the soul mate. Good luck living up to that, you’re better off not playing the game.
2) This means that you’re defined by a relationship
Whatever is your idol in your life is the thing that you’re going to wonder about regarding whether or not it was written in the stars when you were born. Thus, for many women, it’s a soul mate. Women naturally idolize marriage, having kids and being with a man. If this is what living comes down to you’re going to do everything to make this happen, whether that means acting superficially in order to appease a person and get their affection because you want to make them your soul mate.
As MGTOW men we are centered around the idea that we are nobody’s slave. We owe nobody anything and we are not bound to another person. We can be there to help family and friends, but our lives are not the disposable lives that the praying mantis analogy has painted for modern society, in which the man is eating after copulation.
3) There are seven billion people in the world, what you think bro?
Seriously. There are seven billion people in the world and you will meet far less than even 1/100 of a percent of them. What about those people in New Zealand? What about in southern Argentina? Or Vladivostok? You know who cares, I think my high school sweetheart I met in my high school of 200 students has to be my soul mate, because clearly 200 people out of 7 billion is a very large ratio.
There is likely no other women like that out there, I was blessed to just go to one of the 100,000 high schools in the nation and find her.
If there is reasoning that is oblique and asinine, this is it. This is one that I’ve not only used to refute the concept of a soul mate but also of marriage. You marry based on temporal circumstance and convenience, almost nothing else. You marry out of random circumstance occasionally because you vacationed in Spain once and met a beautiful Spanish woman, not because you were destined to meet her and she is clearly the best option for you.
4) My experience with my brother-in-law’s parents
So, to finish this rant off guys, I’m going to look at the example of my brother-in-law’s parents. First off, they’re both awesome people, stellar character and are very loving. They were both missionaries for almost their whole professional lives thus far. Working together and working in the church, a place where marriage is even more consecrated and anti-divorce – with good reason – they still got divorced after I believe 30 years of marriage.
Things happen guys. Regardless of all that you’ve been through, if there is one constant in this universe, it’s change. If change is the only constant, why do are you to think that your soul mate at age 25 is going to be the same at age 35, 45 and so forth.
Let’s look at the culture of marriage before the Industrial Revolution. It was either you married whoever was around you because you needed to pass on the family name, reproduce and had no other options of travel or social media to make your marriage market the size of the freaking earth.
And guess what, marriages were better. Marriages weren’t failing at the 50 percent rate that they’re now. And you know why, because our own egos and desires weren’t in the way. We just did them, we lived with ourselves and were content. But because we are all little snowflakes in today’s world, we must divorce not once, not twice but thrice in order to make ourselves believe that our yearning for a soul mate was justified.
Where does it even say in ancient texts, in classical literature and in the Bible that marriage is something that is based on connection and romance. Nowhere. It was merely based on physical characteristics, the convenience of being in your tribe or small city or it was arranged. And once more, these marriages succeeded. They weren’t divorcing and committing adultery and living with the bending of the rules.
You also know why, because people had personal convictions and people also had to deal with shame. Shame is actually a good thing socially. Shame is the one thing that keeps people from crime. You remove the shame element in being a convict or having a kid out of wedlock or cheating and you’re free to do whatever else. Research has shown that shame is the biggest deterrent to morally averse behavior. But, it has been removed and relationships, morals and marriages are destroyed.
So, my advice is to not play the game.
But guys, please remember why. Remember why we are here and why I’m even talking about this. Because at the end of the day we don’t want to waste our time, our money, our energy, our peace and our freedom. This isn’t to bash something else and say it’s stupid. I’m saying it’s stupid and flawed in order to make these beliefs and societal norms less appealing in order to save you from the loss of all of these important things. This is why.
The soul mate doesn’t exist. You know who your soul mate is, the soul God gave you. No other soul. You are born to yourself, you die to yourself and then you are taken from this place of the flesh. You are never bound to someone else such as the soul mate, because that means being a slave to another soul, the exact antithesis of MGTOW. This is why brothers, we think.
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Be good MGTOW men and enjoy freedom. Hoodies up, hoodie out.