“I think the whole thing God not giving you anything you can’t handle is BS man…my ex-girlfriend now called to break up with me as my Dad is laying in the hospital as I was going to go see him.”
Today’s message is going to be about another real-life experience, a MGTOW message and lesson for us all that I actually had enter into my life today. It’s fresh off the chew-em-up spit-em-out conveyor belt that we call dating.
Welcome back MGTOW men, thanks for joining me today as we begin another red pill popping session. I hope you guys are hanging in there this Wednesday evening – and I hope this article finds you well as you’re winding down from work, gaming on Steam or as you try and drown out the sound of your nagging but soon to be ex girlfriend, as that’s what happened to one of my best friends today, who’s girlfriend of nearly four years dumped him over the phone as he was driving to go see his dad who is in the hospital with a broken hip, a UTI and has dropped what seems to be about 70 to 80 pounds.
My friend is relatively secretive and I think there is some shame regarding his family situation, so I don’t know all the details, but based on the UTI and the fact that he has lost so much weight, isn’t eating and has been on the colon cleansing solution that’s given to people as prep for colonoscopies, it’s believed that he may have some alcohol abuse problems going on right now.
His parents are divorced and have been divorced long before I met him in 2012. I never once met either of his parents, siblings or any other family members. This dude has been through it, having to pay his way through school and keep food on the table by going to donate plasma each week, joining focus groups each week for market research – all the while strategizing all the ways to save money, from finessing his way into gyms, using public wifi and never his own data or personal wifi at home and eating a dumpy diet that no way sustains this dude who is like 6-3 225.
If there is a loyal friend, this guy is it. After going college with him for one year he transferred from my school. We’ve seen each other for five days over the past five years but have kept in touch, texting everyday since then. I say some wacky ish to him and call him out all the time, but he’s never backed down or expected anything from me. He’s loyal.
But, his loyalty and sacrifice for his girlfriend – simply wasn’t enough. She couldn’t even stick it out long enough for his dad to get out of the hospital where he has been laid up for over a week with no other support than his own son, my friend. My friend’s’ dad’s ex-wife lives over five hours away and they never have contact with one another. The burden is on my friend to be there with his dad each day in addition to working a full-time job, as his siblings are nowhere to be found and actually didn’t even act when they found out that their dad broke his hip and needed to be rushed to the emergency room.
I could go into more family specifics, but I don’t need to divulge that information. The point of the matter is, as much as women are spoken of and regarded throughout society as being the empathetic gender, the coldness, vileness and heartless nature of many women today is rampant and outweighs that which I’ve seen from men.
My friend transferred from the school I was at with him in order to be back at college with his now ex-girlfriend. Taking out loans to pay for school, he has been paying $1,000 dollars per month in order to pay off his loans this year, working a job that he can’t stand in order to have enough money for them to move to a new part of the country after she graduates from grad school this spring.
Not only would he not have the loans if she wasn’t in the picture, he wouldn’t have gone to the dumpy school in BFE that he chose to go to and he wouldn’t have driven four hours each weekend in order to see her at grad school. And now, she dumps him – not when things are going well for him, but when things have hit their absolute worst.
He’s straddled with school debt, he’s in a dead end job that isn’t related to what he wants to do, he doesn’t want to live in the city he is currently at because of the lack of opportunity and the stress from his divided family and he even texted me two days ago asking for my opinion on what type of Cricket phone plan he should get. I don’t want to knock on those with Cricket or Boost Mobile out there, but this dude has to pinch every penny as she has had the opposite experience in life.
I’m not going to knock her style of life and the fact that she has had everything provided for her. I believe that if you work hard enough as parents and can afford that for your kids, then so be it. Let that happen and let that type of life exist. But the defining thing about this is that she never empathized with him. He never had the leg up in life and was always running, but he was still expected to spend the money and to provide for her, not the other way around.
Lessons learned my friends, what are they. Well, I think they’re pretty obvious. Don’t put yourself out there and don’t change your plans in life that sacrifice convenience and put you at risk of financial walls. The words directly from his mouth today were, “I know, right. I took this job because of her and I’m in this situation because of her.” Honestly, lucky this happened to him now as a 24-year old instead of ending up just like his parents, divorced and ailing because of the fallout.
This text later this afternoon said, “yeah, she never really understood the struggle I have had. It’s not her fault, we just come from different lifestyles. She’s had everything paid for and everything I’ve done is two steps forward and five steps backwards.”
The steps backwards have largely been caused by her, and based on my assumptions, his dad is in the same situation because of the divorce that he went through. Totally estranged from all of his kids, not able to support anyone despite being a lawyer – all of this likely due to the wife, my friend’s mom, who he calls crazy and never spends time with.
The risk is too high men. It’s just too high. My bro told me he planned on marrying this girl. I warned him and discussed MGTOW and the dangers of selling out. I’ll ease him into it more now, I’ll just let the scar heal.
2) Do not re-date the your ex
This is what happened, he rebounded with this chick during a time of loneliness and misdirection during the middle of his college years in BFE middle of the United States. During this time, I actually envied him and wished to have his liberty and freedom as I was totally wrapped around the finger of my first girlfriend.
But, like I said about the acronym HALT, if you’re hungry, angry, lonely or tired – suffering from anyone of those four for a prolonged period of time can put you in these dangerous situations. The success rate of dating an ex after breaking up has to be exceedingly low. If you had to cut ties from this person after a short period of time, even when the relationship wasn’t bound by law and could theoretically be broken at anytime, it’s clear that the relationship won’t last to the stages of what we would consider a long, successful marriage.
These decisions are often fueled by our natural attraction to nostalgia and proving ourselves to ourselves almost and trying to reconcile something – even if we are not conscious of these things.
3) Her hand is always on eject
Girlfriends essentially play the role of God, or try to in a relationship. I equate dating to being on the other end of a nuclear missile or lethal injection strike. At any moment she can press eject, inject or launch and obliterate you from her life and leave you behind. A man will naturally become more invested into a girl and feel an emotional connection and satisfaction that a women will not. Statistics show that women move on from relationships far more quickly than men, and thus if you slip up or don’t give enough time to them, they can press the launch nuke button and blow you back to the stone age.
You have to realize that if you date, you are always in this peril. Her finger is always hovering over the eject or launch button, and it won’t take much to trigger the strike – and NORAD won’t be there to let you know that it is coming either. To give you further proof of this I will have to tell you how my first girlfriend broke the news of her cheating on me in a later video.
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